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November 2008 
Boundary issues
Posted on Jun 8th, 2007
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Ryan
Ryan
I have a moral diellema. I have a job possibility as an instructional designer with Anheiser Busch for more than double my salary. My girlfriend is, to put it bluntly, opposed to this. I don't blame her. Her father seems to have had some trouble with alcohol, so the bad association is understandable. The question remains, though, what should I do. Personally, I have no ethical qualms with the company, even though I avoid alcohol myself. But I don't want to upset her.
Questions, comments, deep thoughts?
Questions, comments, deep thoughts?
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Quite the diellema. Follow the girl. The money aint worth much without her. And you know what? Often for guys, those kinds of opportunities get offered to guys who are in good relationships. Damage the relationship and you might find that although its twice the salary, its 3 times the effort when that same love isn’t there with you and your girl anymore.
I agree, the money isn't worth much without her. And I don't need much to get by (except for house payments, which are no small issue). But the flip side is that if I take the job at half the salary, I have half as much time to spend with her, when it all evens out. More money means more free time, to say the least. Not to mention the opportunity to go back to school and finish my masters.
Thanks for your thoughts, cosmic.
Sometimes people give up those things they really want for themselves for fear of hurting their partner. That doesn’t seem to work out either.
In a period of my life where I didn’t love myself so much, I attracted a girl who would use her acceptance and rejection of my actions as a way to manipulate my direction. As soon as I got out of the relationship, I was free and my monetary stuff rolled in. I could learn without these moral issues being projected into me that I didn’t have.